Right, before anyone tries to argue the opposite, I must say it: I do have friends, OK! Quite a few, as a matter of fact. This is the sort of person I am: surrounded by a network of people close to me. Looking around, though, I can’t help but notice a certain trend: none of them are tall. Not even one! A bit weird, isn’t it? Got me scratching my head: why is that? Why?
So, here is a list of reasons I was able to identify!
1. No Single Particular Reason
It simply happens: mainly because there are not many tall girls that I know. And even if there are some, I don’t necessarily have to like them, right? After all, we pick our friends for reasons other than their size.
Truth be told, I did have one tall friend many years ago, but wouldn’t call her a bestie. Why not? Just read on. I also had a few tall male friends, but, let’s face it: you just can’t help but end up having a crush on them. At least I can’t. My soft spot: tall men, hey…
2. No Vanity/Hidden Agenda
My best friends don’t care about my height. Or my weight, for that matter. They won’t ask me questions like: “Just how tall are you exactly?”; ” Do you think I am tall?”; “What is your shoe size?” It makes no difference to them whatsoever, as all they care about is my friendship and whether our characters click. Same goes for me. Interestingly, my best friends are usually (a tad) overweight. Does this mean I preach them about the importance of dieting and exercising? Not at all: I couldn’t care less what their size is, and am grateful to them for feeling the same way about me. Now, where is that box of chocolates…!
3. Meaningful/Deeper Communication
As our clothes and shoe sizes are different, the likelihood of chit chatting about what we got and where from is pretty much non-existent. We will definitely acknowledge each other’s new buys (“Hey, I love your new coat, hun!” sort of thing), but we won’t make this the main topic of a conversation. Not that there is anything wrong in having a fashion conversation, or a rant about the lack of fashion resources for us, tall girls, but, after all, there are far more important things that connect us. We can talk about many other things – and so we do.
I am not saying that this is all I would be talking about with a tall friend – God no. And still, it feels good to just ignore this topic for a change.
For those who follow my blog and get its philosophy, it will be clear that No 2 and 3 combined are the reasons why I blog:
There is more to me than being tall, and more things I want to be talking about or focusing on!
4. No Competition Over Men/Trust Issues
OK, I am going to be honest: this should have been reason No 1! This is the ultimate advantage of having a friend totally opposite your size. Although, sod’s law, we cannot exclude the possibility of a tall man going after a short girl, none of my short friends have ever shown interest in the men I dated. Tall territory is just that: hands off my tall men!
Which is why that tall friend of mine wasn’t my bestie. While trying to fix me up with that ever so tall basketball player, she hooked up with his brother… who was so hot that it was him I actually fancied. Which comes to show that I couldn’t be trusted, either! Where is that sisterhood everyone is talking about?? Years down the line, after she married and divorced that hottie, she admitted to me that the brother she actually had her eye on all that time was… the one I dated. Somehow I never managed to trust her again. She never knew about my crush on her ex, though, so it is possible she may have actually trusted me. Exactly my point!
What I Am Missing Out On
A lot, I guess! For a start, it must be good to be together with someone in the same situation as you – in all respects. Someone who can give you a shopping advice, if you want. Or you can swap shoes and clothes with. Never gonna happen!
Now… I could have left it at this. But, being the honest blogger that I am, I just realised: I do have a tall friend. Well, maybe not a bestie, but a really good one!
Shit! Did I just prove myself wrong?
I don’t think so! Reading all this back, everything I just said applies to her. Which proves that, after all, it is possible to find a tall friend… just not very. 🙂