I have always suffered low self-esteem because of my height. No point in denying it. It has taken me all the 47 years of my life (there, I even admit my true age) to realise that it is my mindset that has always been the problem more than my actual height. Now I can proudly say: tall is beautiful, and so am I. Just.
No, whom am I kidding, I only say it *in theory* but don’t really believe it for myself.
What happens when kids start outgrowing you though – which I, somehow, never imagined happening? Should I transfer my miserable perception of how it is not so good to be tall to my kids, or keep it to myself?
If you are anything like me, self-conscious of being a tall freak, let’s work on this together, perhaps this will make it easier? It is not our kids’ fault they are so tall; it is our responsibility, after all. And it is up to us to raise them as beautiful tall persons confident in their looks.
There was no better eye opener for me than hearing my daughter’s reaction to what has been the story of my life: being the tallest girl, like, ever.
“Oh mum, apparently I am the tallest one in our class!”, she exclaimed one evening.
I froze, realising it was perhaps time for that talk: how difficult it is to be a tall girl, but she has to own her height and be proud of it. I, half-mouthed, started mumbling that yes, she probably was, and I had always been the tallest in the whole school, and university, and work… Then I asked her to tell me what happened.
“I like being tall!”, she exclaimed. I gazed at her, speechless. She continued: “I am tall for the right reason! I can reach things that other children can’t!”
This is the attitude it has taken me 47 freaking years to come to! My girl is something else. She is not me. And it is more than ever important not to let her know about my own body hang ups. Yes, it is great to be tall! Nothing we can do about it, so we may as well accept who we are and be happy.
My new resolutions from now on:
- Admire my tall and beautiful kids, and make sure they know that.
- Be proud of them, and make sure they know that.
- Remember to remind them they are beautiful as they are. Note to self: this doesn’t mean I should stop teaching them to be healthy!
- Try to limit my fear of them becoming giants I cannot find clothes and shoes for! It is much better now than it was when I was growing up as a tall teen. Even with Long Tall Sally gone (sort of), there is still plenty of choice on the World Wide Web. In all fairness, there is much more choice for them than me, as gone are the days when I could afford showing my midriff under cropped tops, or wear mini skirts and shorts. My kids, on the other hand, can pull anything off: fashion is made with their generation in mind (mostly).
- Relax and enjoy the ride!
- If any of these are hard at any point: have a glass of wine, or two. Then go back to resolution number one, and start again.